If this were the 1920s you would say, "Duh!" But we have e-mail, instant messaging, cellular telephones, texting, blogging, Facebook, Twitter, etc. This was supposed to level the playing field and allow you to communicate evenly with your neighbors and your relatives in Poughkeepsie.
It is easier, but I still find myself contacting people in my vicinity more than those distant. Why?
- I have business with people around me. Appointments. Meetings. Parties. I make more contact with people I see face-to-face.
- I know what they are doing. I try not to call when it might interrupt things like sleep or work or dental appointments. I know better the schedules of people I see regularly.
- Formality. To call someone I rarely see requires me, out of politeness, to inquire at length of their welfare, and to respond symmetrically to their inquiries. It's often a burden I'm glad to ignore, unless I have good reason.
- Out-of-sight, out-of-mind. I'm not implying I forget people when they disappear. No, my neurotic mind assumes they won't remember me. Why contact someone who has probably moved on, while I am fixated on reliving a distant memory?